Fillin' Out the Forms

Because we're getting married in a Catholic church, we have to fill our various forms and also participate in pre-marital counseling.

Being in Korea has complicated things, of course. Luckily we've been speaking through email to the deacon at our parish and have had a lot of our questions answered that way. When it was time to fill out the "Pre-Marital Investigation Form", things got a bit hectic. Our church advised that we try to fill out the form here in Korea with a local priest because this is what's normally done. After I scoured the internet for weeks looking for English speaking parishes in Daejeon, I only had one contact me back, and they weren't sure what that form was.

Considering the form should be done 3-4 months before the wedding, we had to come up with another solution. That's when our deacon recommended a Skype call. We're so fortunate that he was familiar with the internet-calling system and we set up an "appointment" with him last night.

Because the form should be filled out separately by each of us, I left the room and Matt answered the questions first. 15 Minutes later it was my turn, and then we wrapped up a bit with the deacon before signing off. In a few words, the entire experience was painless! The form contains mostly basic information about us, our parents, our religions, baptism dates, etc. Then there are a few questions asking about your will to marry and if there is anyone pressuring or forcing you to get married. He also asked a few questions like "will you love him unconditionally forever?" and it made me feel like I was reciting vows!

So now that the initial form is complete, the next step is the survey. Usually this is done as part of counseling, but since we're not coming home until 3 weeks before the wedding, the deacon will scan the forms and send them to us to fill out separately. When we're finished, we'll scan them back, he will take a look at them and then when we're in Maine we'll have the actual counseling session with him regarding the results. Basically it's a 100+ question "test" asking you various questions about everything under the sun: your beliefs, your views on children, on work, on sex, on finances, on politics, etc. I guess it's somewhat like a compatibility test, haha. After the priest looks over the results from both of us he can focus on the questions that we might have disagreed on. That way we are aware of some things we might need to communicate more openly about being and during our marriage. Sounds like a wonderful way to start off a marriage :)

After we "pass" that test, it's all systems go!

Just 7 weeks until we're home in Maine <3